To my followers,
Perhaps you’ve noticed my absence (perhaps not – I won’t take offense). I don’t know whether to apologize or simply ignore the month of no posts or activity on my site. I know reading can be therapeutic, so I hope you’re making a change with meditation, productivity at work, or educating yourselves on what greenhouse gases are. But in light of Independence Day, I wanted to share a note on freedom.
Meik Wiking, the CEO of the Happiness Research Institute in Copenhagen, shines a light (firework ;)) on the idea of having freedom of choice. He asks “‘Are you satisfied or dissatisfied with your freedom to choose what you do with your life?'” He states the freedom to be, choose, express, marry and so on are one of six factors that lead most people to being happier than others.
Now think about it.
- Are you satisfied with being able to choose what you do with your life?
- Do you feel in control of your time?
It starts off easy and then you have to think a little…I am satisfied with the freedom of choice, but I don’t always feel in control of my time. Here’s my example:
I got a new job. Woo! One that pays the bills, aligns with my degree and has a greater purpose. So this, plus my Farmer’s Market job plus my blog should be a celebration! Except it didn’t feel that way. Money is useful, but the more I worked, the less time I made for my mental health and my blog!
I’ll be honest, I felt like I had forgotten everything I was preaching on my site. I stopped meditating because I felt I didn’t have 5 minutes to spare or I was too tired to try. I shortened my morning self-care routine because I had to put in more hours for my new job. I even started drinking unsustainable coffee because it was convenient…so what was I doing?
I was letting stress take over. I allowed other things to run my time and felt pressure to complete projects by a certain time of day which added fuel to the fire. So while life can be a grind, I had to remind myself I’m able to create my own schedule.
Yes, maybe you work a 9-5, but what are you going to do with 6am-9am or 5pm-10pm? And how do you want to be while you’re at work? Because you get to choose that, too.
Here are a few ways to free up your time to make room for the fun activities, according to The Little Book of Lykke:
- Cook more than you need (leftovers!).
- Two in one – instead of choosing social vs. physical, try running with a buddy.
- Stay clear of time stealers like social media scrolling.
- Schedule when you have to start a task and when you have to finish it.
No one has it all put together and it isn’t always easy. Even if you can’t adhere to it at the moment, remember you have the freedom to choose your time. And in that time, let’s choose how we speak to others, how we act in kindness without judgement, respect that others have different opinions, and allow ourselves to be our best self. One step at a time creates the impact.